Slaying the Sleep Paralysis Demon: 3 Practical Tips

The Nightmare by John Henry Fuseli (1781)

It hits you suddenly and without warning.

Floating around in dreamland, the blissful scene is interrupted by a feeling of dread. You start to panic and don’t know why. Something’s coming. Something…dark.

The landscape shifts, and you’re awake and safe in your bedroom. Phew. Every detail of this space is exactly the same as it always was, except… what’s that static noise? What’s that shadow in the corner? It’s coming closer! It’s hovering over you!

Your first instinct is to run but find you can’t move a muscle. You’re frozen in place. You try to scream but no sound escapes your lips. The shadow is dragging you off the bed. This is how I die, you think. It’s taking me to hell…

The weight is unbearable. You hear your name ringing in your ear, clear as a bell. Your heart nearly pounds out of your chest.

Then, just like that, it’s over.

You’re awake, you’re safe, you’re scared out of your mind.

Does this sound familiar?

You’re not alone. As many as 50% of all people have experienced episodes like this at some point in their lives, and depictions can be found in art and literature dating back hundreds of years. Many cultures around the world have created their own delicious myths surrounding this terrifying phenomenon.

Today, we call it sleep paralysis.

My own experiences with “the Night Hag” began way before I formed permanent memories. I know this because I can recall a childhood episode very vividly, and remember thinking “ugh, this again.” Back then, it was simply a bodily sensation… the fear and hallucinations didn’t come until I grew older.

For years I suffered in silence because no one seemed to have any clue about what I was talking about, and I didn’t have a term to google back then. I actually had to try every searching every keyword I could think of before the words “sleep” and “paralysis” came together.

How did you learn about it?

After a lifetime of battling this demon and experiencing every flavor of it—from alien abduction to underworld kidnapping—I’ve developed my own methods of keeping the Pandafeche at bay. I’m happy to report that I haven’t seen the little bugger in quite some time.

Bon voyage, creepy shadow presence! I hope there are lots of cookies wherever you are!

Even though it hasn’t yet been fully explained by science, there are some great theories about why this happens to us, which we can explore later on. 

Tonight, I’ll share with you a few of the most popular tips for avoiding sleep paralysis, and one of my own.

A few things first:

  1. Consider seeing a specialist. Yes, I have to say it. If you’re experiencing sleep paralysis often, there could be an underlying disorder such as narcolepsy (the most common association) or severe stress. Let’s rule that out.
  2. The most widely-accepted theory for why sleep paralysis happens is this: A natural part of falling asleep is “atonia.” This is when your brain relaxes your muscles so you don’t act out your dreams.  Otherwise, you’d have a lot to explain in the morning! Sleep paralysis is likely the result of atonia happening while you’re awake. Add your body’s fight-or-flight juice, and you have some vivid hallucinations to complete your cocktail.
  3. You won’t die. Sleep paralysis, although soul-shakingly terrifying, is not physically dangerous nor poses a serious medical risk. I know you’ll be certain you’re definitely dying in the moment, but it’s nice to know right now while you’re awake and reasonable… that you won’t.

And now, some things to try.

Go the f*ck to sleep

(Ok, I just got this book as a baby shower gift, and I had to sneak it in there! Did you know Samuel L Jackson narrates it? I digress…)

But seriously, if you can help it, go to bed at a decent hour. At least rest your body and brain if you can’t fully sleep. That whole atonia thing? The mix up is most likely to happen when you’re over-tired. I know this is true for me, and backed by research.

However, I’ve also noticed that I get it really bad if I over-sleep or keep hitting snooze. Really anything that messes with your REM.

Don’t lay on your back

You may be a die-hard back sleeper, and I’m not judging—I’m team fetal position all the way—but studies have shown that there’s a correlation between sleeping on your back and increased episodes of paralysis.

This is probably because your soft palate relaxes and obstructs your airway, kind of like sleep apnea. So, although we change positions multiple times throughout the night no matter how you fall asleep, you should make a conscious effort to stay off your back.

I’ve had to learn this during pregnancy. My tip— try using a contoured body pillow for extra incentive and support.

(Personal recommendation: The Snoogle! OMG it is a dream. For someone who suffers from SP, it keeps me perfectly cradled in the right position and feeling super secure all night. Sorry hubby, you’ve been replaced!) 


Yes, the standard witchy advice works wonders for this too. Go hug your high priestess.

Research has shown that long-term meditation practitioners spend more time in slow wave sleep and as such regular meditation practice could reduce nocturnal arousal and thus possibly sleep paralysis.” Thanks, Wikipedia! It also helps you relax into your body rather than panicking, which makes it worse.

Another thing I like to do is a bit of preventative visualization.

Before falling asleep, close your eyes and bring to mind the most recent sleep paralysis attack you’ve had. Try to recall the sensation in vivid detail, using every sense. Breathe deeply, and consciously relax each one of your muscles. Really sink into the bed. If you start to get anxious, remind yourself, “It will pass, if I just relax.” This will train you not to fight it, which again makes it worse.

I’ve also played around with pretending I’m a Hogwarts alumni and using the spell Riddikulus to transform the shadow presence… with hilarious results.

(If you like Harry Potter references, I have one last fun tip that I’m saving for my subscribers, so do sign-up for the email list.)

I hope this helps shed a little light on what’s been going on with yourself. Just remember, you’re not alone, you’re not gonna die, and you’re not possessed. Yay!

Alrighty. So we got some education, some history, and some tips… but there’s still a lot more to explore here.

Once you’ve tried the above, I’ve actually got some of my own weird little techniques I use to actually slay the sleep paralysis demon. They’re totally not what you find on these medical web articles…

I’m thinking of creating an in-depth course and will do it if there’s a demand. Would this interest you?

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Sweet Dreams,

x Bettie


Your Sleep is Sacred

YOU own the space behind your eyelids.

No one can take this from you but yourself.

Not your family, not your boss, not the ghosts of your past. Just you.

You may fight it, you may pretend it isn’t there…

…but at one point in the night you will surrender to the peace, again.

(Whether you like it or not.)

Your mind will go blank, your subconscious will take over, and you will let go.

You will meet your True Self. You will dance with the Universe.

The one you call out to in your darkest hour, in your throes of passion,

Will greet you tonight.

No need to wait until the final moment.

Close your eyes…

And let go.

You may cling to wakefulness, desperate to reclaim some part of your identity

That you sold to the collective dream.

Yet, with an ironic smile, it waits for you on the other side.

Hello, again.

Your spirit regards you tenderly, as if to say,

“You adorable sack of meat,

Why wrestle with a beast older than time?

Why resist the inevitable?”


Do you insist on being Other, on being Special, on being small?

Do you fear the softness in your heart, the tenderness you’ve locked away in a tower?

Or are you terrified of the dragon, all of your mess and violence and darkness?

There is nothing to be afraid of.

You were born of the same spark of creation.

There is no “good” or “evil”, only “acknowledged” and “repressed.”

There is no shame, there is no glory.

You are all that ever was and all that ever will be.

As the veil lifts over your subconscious,

Your Inner Child cries out to you…

A symbolic language only you can understand.

Are you listening to your dreams?

Do you scoff at their absurdity,

Or do you ponder their messages?

Do you wake within the dream

And realize you are the dreamer?

That you always are?

Tonight, like every night, you will meet the wholeness of who you are.

Tonight, like every night, the quiet darkness will heal your body and soul.

Tonight, like every night, you will rejoin the All.

You become You, you become Me, you become No One.

Here, the stories you tell yourself about your Self melt away.

You are left whole, perfect, and powerful.

What will you bring back with you when you wake up?

Who will you choose to be?

Every morning, your soul makes the curious decision…

…to incarnate into this game.

As the light pours in, your conscious puts the pieces back together again.

As you open your eyes, you slip on your character and rehearse your story, again.

And every morning, you rise, fresh and new…

If only for a moment.

Your sleep is sacred.

Own it.

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